What is Flirting and Should Christians Do It?
We’ve all seen it: A single man and woman are talking and laughing a little too much at a party. They’re a little too friendly with one another. Playful, smiley, and affectionate describe their behavior. They’re tapping each other gently on the shoulder and sitting closely as they banter. We know what’s going on – […]
Can Dating Be Platonic?
Have you seen the early 2000’s movie, Just Friends? The premise is that a young man, Chris Brander (played by actor Ryan Reynolds), has a crush on a woman named Jamie in high school. Chris is a nerd, overweight, and deathly afraid to reveal to Jamie how he feels. In one scene, outside a house […]
Physical Intimacy While Dating: How Far is Too Far Before Marriage?
Sex outside of marriage was as hot of a topic in biblical times as in Christianity today. “Fleeing immorality,” which includes pre-marital sex, is a theme in 1 Corinthians and the rest of Scripture (6:18). So why don’t more Christians take waiting for sex seriously? According to Pew Research in 2020, 50% of Christians say, […]
Why Women Asking Out Men Doesn’t Work (but One Reason to Go For It)
Single Christians are waiting longer than ever to get married. According to one survey of 15,000 couples by The Knot, the average age in 2021 for married couples was 32 [1]. Many women desire marriage before age 32. Unfortunately, in the church, women are at a statistical disadvantage. According to Pew Research, Christian women “are […]
How Much Time Should I Take After a Divorce to Start Dating Again?
Going through a divorce is grueling, and I wouldn’t wish it upon anybody. I’m a child of divorce and I can see how much it hurt my mom and dad. Overall, each person is unique and needs a different amount of time to recover before beginning to date again. However, getting back into dating isn’t […]
Unsure of Dating Someone? Here’s What to Do
Let’s face it, sometimes you’re unsure whether you want to go out with someone or not. Ambivalence in dating—especially at the outset—is normal and expected. Dating is about spending time with someone for the possibility of marriage, but the keyword is a possibility. If you go out with someone, there should be at least an […]
How to Recover from a Breakup
Dating isn’t a perfect solution to finding a mate, but it’s the most ubiquitous process used in the West. The problem with dating is that chances are, you’re going to experience at least a couple of breakups. Moving on and letting go of someone is difficult for the heart, and the longer the relationship continues, […]
Three Tips to Breaking-Up Well
I experienced a broken engagement several years ago and it was the most painful experience of my life. One failure like this is enough for a lifetime. Regardless of whether you’re dating or engaged, letting go of a relationship that is less than God’s best is not easy—especially when you’re emotionally, socially, and spiritually invested […]
4 Pernicious Myths of Christian Dating
I’ve circled the Christian and non-Christian dating block more times than I’d like to admit. I was twenty-one before I became a follower of Christ and attended church regularly. Though Christian dating was new to me, I began noticing several pernicious myths that needed to be dispelled. Below I list four of them and what […]
Why the Church Needs to Talk About Dating
A friend and I began planning an event for our church where unmarried men and women could mingle and get to know each other. The church’s leadership wanted to create a subtle night of games where singles could interact naturally. In the process, maybe they’d get a phone number or two. But I wanted to […]